tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1794426126775991530.post3439732143463613677..comments2023-09-29T04:49:19.984-07:00Comments on Who doesn't love T&A?: More InformationUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1794426126775991530.post-10997733824577366612013-01-10T20:25:14.474-08:002013-01-10T20:25:14.474-08:00I LOVE Nurtureshock... Need to read it again. I th...I LOVE Nurtureshock... Need to read it again. I think I loaned it to someone...Ameliahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05818287674488893761noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1794426126775991530.post-19084685291717075072013-01-10T12:18:06.053-08:002013-01-10T12:18:06.053-08:00I'm sorry. Winter time is challenging, and par...I'm sorry. Winter time is challenging, and parenting a very active four year old boy must be extra challenging. Wish I could give you some sage words of advice, but obviously I can't... (side note: it's too bad you didn't learn about some of this until after you brought it up to the teacher!). Good luck! Also - have you read Nurtureshock? There's an interesting chapter about lying, which might be helpful for how you deal with that... Juliahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13818857434232415441noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1794426126775991530.post-58572483792722008922013-01-09T15:18:32.166-08:002013-01-09T15:18:32.166-08:00Wow, someone else who encourages running in the ho...Wow, someone else who encourages running in the house?! I'm always peeved when we're somewhere else and a parent will chide their offspring for running indoors, climbing UP the slide, or being imaginative in other slightly offbeat ways. I'm a fair-weather runner and so, since we live in the land of constant rain, I've probably run more miles in my house than outside of it. As for throwing things indoors, if it will break things, then they have to throw it in their room, but as long as it's soft, go for it. After the older boys practically destroyed their bunk beds we had to add in some rules about jumping on the bed, but we do try to stay away from excessive rule since that entails excessive regulating.<br /><br />My new conclusion is that there is nothing wrong with our active boys, but rather something wrong with our culture! Ha! (But yes, I still maintain that boys must learn to function within the rules of polite society.)Jennifer L.https://www.blogger.com/profile/17248235022336739413noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1794426126775991530.post-9831502010281762482013-01-09T09:01:04.443-08:002013-01-09T09:01:04.443-08:00You know, Jennifer, I think part of it is modeling...You know, Jennifer, I think part of it is modeling behavior - we are really relaxed at our house (not many rules about what one can and cannot do) and we do a lot of running in the house, jumping on the furniture, etc. We have a "no throwing things inside" rule, but not many others. Charles learned to ride his bike in our kitchen. So it's hard for him to go elsewhere and not be able to be rambunctious. All that energy to burn and I have to find an outlet and help him understand that there is a time and a place. So hard.Ameliahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05818287674488893761noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1794426126775991530.post-3578974060884144912013-01-08T19:03:19.024-08:002013-01-08T19:03:19.024-08:00I really admire your parenting plan for dealing wi...I really admire your parenting plan for dealing with an excess of energy. James, my oldest is my troublemaker at school. (Side story: At work I had a patient tell me that James looks like a trouble-maker in his picture. Apparently everyone can spot that mischievous gleam in his eyes.) I, unfortunately, get fairly regular calls from schools about how James has managed to forget common sense. We've talked about proper behavior, set goals, bribed with rewards, used threats, had other adults discuss the situation with him, etc., but nothing seems to be the magical solution. His dad just writes it off as 'boys will be boys,' but shouldn't boys still be able to function acceptably in society even if they are very energetic? Anyhow, I think that is all a round-about way of saying that I have no idea how to help, but can definitely relate. Good luck!Jennifer L.https://www.blogger.com/profile/17248235022336739413noreply@blogger.com