Wednesday, March 19, 2014

Boy Town

I worried that I would mourn the lack of a girl in my life – and I’m sure I will at some point – but this baby is a boy, and I love him.  Just as I would never wish for Charles or Jamie to be girls, this baby could never be anything but a boy.


In all disgustingly boring practicality, it’s great that we’re having a boy.  I have almost everything I need for a third boy!  I don’t have to buy clothing or toys for a boy!  I don’t know that parenting a boy is that much different than parenting a girl, but I’ll never have to find out; I’ll never have the added stress of dealing with girl stuff.  I will have three rambunctious boys who like boy stuff and doing boy things. 



All the time is tree-climbing time


The only things I have to buy for this baby are an infant car seat and some new cloth diapers.  That’s it.  This will be the least expensive baby of the bunch!


Oh, except for the fact that we need a new car.  That’s going to be expensive.  And so this baby will be the most expensive of the bunch, I suppose.


On the other hand, I will never shop for dresses for a daughter.  I will never take a daughter to get a pedicure.  I will never get to do “girl stuff” with a girl of my own.  And that is a little bit heartbreaking.



Several more years of mini cars, LEGOs, and that Ptchew! Ptchew! Ptchew! sound


I’ve received a lot of “congratulations!” from people since our announcement, as well as a lot of pitying looks and condolences.  This is the last baby.  I am a mom of three boys.  I love them with all my heart, and I can hardly wait to hold the third one in my arms.


We didn’t have a third baby because we were “trying for a girl.”  We had a third because we wanted a third.  I’m not “pro-boy” or “anti-girl.”  I think parents of girls work just as hard as parents of boys, even if everyone says “boys are easier.”  I would have loved to have a daughter.  I would have loved for Tony to have a “Daddy’s girl.”  But I get three men instead, and they’ll love me as only sons can love their mothers, and I am happy.


Margarita Primavera said...

Condolences? Really? Well that's just silly. Maybe you mourn the loss of the possibility of a daughter a little, but like you said, there are so many great things about having a boy :)
What cars are you considering? When we bought ours we considered the Subaru Tribeca for that third row to transport kids & their friends :)

Amelia said...

We've been trying to find an AWD Toyota Sienna at a good price - they're pretty rare in the west.

Margarita Primavera said...

Oh no, Amelia, you're going to be a minivan family! ;)
(I had to look it up... I don't tend to keep up with cars...)

Amelia said...

Ah, but have you ever driven one? They're amazing. And I'm not too proud to be super uncool in a minivan! Stop me if I get a "mom haircut" though.

Sylvie said...

Yeah, the condolences things Are annoying and just a warning, it's only going to get worst once the baby is here. The "are you going to try again for a girl" comes from anyone anywhere you go. Even when the boys are standing right there next to me.
In a way I was even more happy thy both Timothy and Griffin were boys because then there is no questioning from the one-before-last that he might just be here because his parents wanted a girl.

Margarita Primavera said...

Will do :)
And I have (not the one you are looking at), and they are way too big for me... but then again I still miss the MINI :)